Why is it so hard for women to ask ask a guy for what we want in our relationships, and actually get it? Sometimes it can feel like men come from a completely different planet than women. Duh, I even was asked by the minister that married me and my ex-husband to read the famous book by John Gray titled almost exactly as such, heard of it? Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus? Well, I’m here to share with you all of the deep insights I’ve uncovered by having survived a challenging marriage from a man that who may been from Mars. 

Ladies, have you ever found yourself frustrated with your man because he just doesn’t seem to understand what you want in your relationship? Do you feel like you’re speaking a different language? Well, you’re not alone. It’s a common issue that many women face, and I’m here to shed some light on the matter.

First of all, let’s address the elephant in the room: men and women are different. I know, shocker, right? But seriously, we have different ways of communicating and processing information. Men tend to be more straightforward and logical, while women are more emotional and intuitive. This can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and miscommunication.

But here’s the thing, ladies: we need to start speaking up for ourselves. We can’t expect our partners to read our minds and magically know what we want. We need to be clear and direct about our needs and desires. It’s not always easy, I know. It can be scary to put yourself out there and risk rejection or disappointment. But trust me, it’s worth it.

One of the biggest obstacles to asking for what we want is the fear of being seen as “needy” or “demanding.” We’ve been conditioned to believe that women should be passive and accommodating, that we should put our partner’s needs before our own. But that’s a load of BS. You deserve to have your needs met just as much as your partner does.

So how do you go about asking for what you want? Start by being specific. Don’t just say “I want more attention.” Say “I would like it if we could spend more quality time together, just the two of us.” This gives your partner a clear idea of what you’re looking for and makes it easier for them to fulfill your request.

Another important thing to remember is to be open to compromise. In my 23 Principles, Principles #8 Partner is all about becoming the partner you would choose to be with. Your partner may not be able to give you everything you want all the time, and that’s okay. Relationships are about give and take. Be willing to listen to your partner’s perspective and find a solution that works for both of you.

And finally, don’t be afraid to walk away if your needs aren’t being met. Know your value and that you must have a high self-esteem and appreciate your value as a woman. I know it’s scary to think about ending a relationship, but staying in a situation where you’re unhappy and unfulfilled is far worse. You deserve to be with someone who respects and values you, and who is willing to work with you to create a happy, healthy relationship.

In conclusion, ladies, it’s time to start speaking up for ourselves. We can’t expect our partners to magically know what we want. We need to be clear and direct about our needs and desires, while also being open to compromise. And remember, if your needs aren’t being met, it’s okay to walk away. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in your relationships. Now go out there and get what you want!